Being desperate dating
Having a solid foundation and connection together, before introducing them to the fam can go a long way.
As relationships grow you learn more and more about the other person; what they like, who they hang out with, where they go regularly.
This should be a natural process that develops over time.
After getting more information it started to become clear to me why Vanessa is in this predicament: Desperation.
Her behaviors and actions communicate to her boyfriend that she is willing to drop anything and everything immediately to spend time with him, including her parental responsibilities (Which is probably playing a big role in why he’s not sure about their relationship).
It is important to stay in touch with your new love interest, but don’t go overboard.